A Widow 'Adopts' a Widow

No one knows what it is like to lose a spouse or a parent better than the IDFWO family. Those who go through it themselves truly have the ability to understand this tragedy better than anyone else. This is why, we started the "A Widow Adopts a Widow" project, in which 'veteran' widows 'adopt' a new widow who has recently joined the circle of bereavement and needs support from someone who has suffered the same loss. Both veteran widows and widows who have recently lost their husband are tremendously impacted by this program. Our veterans act out of the kindness of their hearts to give. Those who are still in the early, desperate stages of loss have someone to turn to who they feel comfortable in asking for help and talking to.

One of our widows tells us about her experience in the program:

"Rivka came to me during the most difficult time of my life. After my Shiva was over and the many visitors left, I was left alone with my two children worried about how to begin again. Where would I get the strength? What could I do? How could I pick up the pieces of my broken heart and carry on? Despite the love and support of family, friends and of the Ministry of Defense, I felt lonely. I felt alone in a cruel world, but then Rivka appeared, like an angel. Many people listen, but only a few understand. Rivka understood.

As a widow herself, more specifically, a 'veteran' widow of the first Lebanon War - she remembered her own feelings when she went through this process when she was in a situation like the one I am in now. Knowing that she had gone through a similar tragedy, I realized that she was the only one that could truly understand what I was going through.

She also helped me cope with my newly fatherless children and assisted me in helping them get through this difficult time, which has still not ended. I don't know if it ever will. 

Since she arrived, she has not left my side. She accompanies me through all of the important life events, always providing me with wise advice and explanations along the way. She helps me gain a new perspective on our situation and listens to everything with patience. My friendship with Rivka is one of the most empowering things in my life and I cannot thank her and the IDFWO enough for this invaluable relationship and support”. 

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